Over 50s Dating Kendal

If you’re one of the UK’s millions of over 50s singletons, you probaly don’t need reminding of just how unsatisfactory some aspects of being on your own can be.

Your situation may be a consequence of divorce, bereavement or just never having found “the one”. You may or may not have chosen to be where you are. In some ways it hardly matters. What is important is that you are surrounded by constant reminders that in many situations when other people are enjoying themselves in pairs, you are alone.

One is definitely the loneliest number.

Of course, the single state has much to recommend it and the choice is up to you, but if you do find yourself wishing you had a companion, a partner, someone to do things with and cherish you, perhaps it’s time you did something about it and took some steps to re-join the dating game.

Okay, it sounds simple. But where to start? No doubt you’ve surveyed the immediate range of possibilities – friends, social acquaintances and existing work colleagues and contacts. And without being judgemental, it’s probably true to say that hanging round bars or living it up in clubs is probably best left to the kids.

But although back in our youth that more or less represented all the options for meeting someone, these days there are a huge number of other possibilities – dating agencies, dinner clubs, singles holidays, speed dating, special interest groups (e.g. dancing, reading groups) and of course, a myriad of print (magazines and newspapers), telephone and on-line opportunities.

All of them have their place and all have been genuinely successful for someone, somewhere along the line. So, there’s no need to be embarrassed about seeking a partner through these channels; many younger people these days just consider it the norm.

But what you do need to do is to start with, and maintain, a realistic idea of the sort of person you are looking for based on shared interests and values (and possibly backgrounds). You also need to take a realistic approach to being adaptable, flexible and being prepared to look much further than appearance.

Particularly at this age, beauty is more than skin deep, and your likelihood of eventual success will improve if you are prepared to overlook the fact that possible partners may not look like George Clooney or Catherine Zeta Jones.

Equally important, you need to take adequate security precautions (such as telling someone if you’re arranging to meet a stranger, not giving out too many personal details or financial information, etc). You should also aim to take things slowly. As they say, fools rush in… so take time to really get to know prospective partners before you pin too much hope or trust on the relationship.

That warning aside, as William Thackeray said, “It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all”.

So why not get the ball rolling by setting yourself the challenge to have a go at a new way of dating, by experimenting with one of the channels you haven’t tried before. By this time next year, if not sooner, you could have a whole new relationship and even a whole new life.

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